Saying “I don’t feel good” doesn’t always mean it’s physical.
Most of the time when I say it, that’s how it’s taken. Everyone always says, “you never feel good”, and it’s frustrating.
I know it’s a bad habit I’ve created, and I’m working on breaking this habit. But when I say I don’t feel good, a lot of times what I really mean is, I don’t feel good emotionally. This can be a difficult concept for others to understand.
I get it, I really do. I know I’m an emotional person, and I’m also an Empath, so the emotions of others also have an effect on me. Not everyone is made this way, which makes it difficult, if not impossible, for them to understand.
Because I am always feeling so many emotions, sometimes I have a hard time trying to explain what I’m feeling. It always ends up coming out as this generic saying of “I don’t feel good.” The problem is, this doesn’t accurately explain what it is I’m actually feeling, and it can be confusing to those around me.
I’ve been trying for awhile to come up with a better way of expressing how I feel, and honestly, it’s been challenging. How do you tell someone their own emotions or moods are affecting you and causing you not to feel good on an emotional level?
When you don’t feel good emotionally, it can also affect you physically
How you’re feeling emotionally can most definitely impact your physical health. It’s usually not in the form of actually being sick, like from a cold or an infection. The physical effects are typically a little more subtle. It could be in the form of a headache, body aches, tension, etc.
This usually ends up creating even more confusion. Like, ok, which is it? Do you not feel good emotionally, or do you not feel good in general? This is why it’s so hard to explain. Trust me, it’s just as frustrating for those of us who are experiencing these effects as it is for those of you trying to understand.
Honestly, that’s why I started just saying I don’t feel good in the first place. It’s easier, it’s something everyone understands, and it’s a lot easier to relate to.
I really don’t like overusing it though, and I feel like when I really am sick, no one is going to take me seriously. I can’t blame them, when they hear me say it so often. Lately I’ve been keeping how I feel to myself, because I’ve been unable to think of a better way to describe my feelings. This isn’t good either, it’s important to be able to express your feelings when you need to.
I knew I needed to think on this, and come up with a better way to express how I was feeling.
Instead of saying I don’t feel good, I decided on this:
Instead of “I don’t feel good”, I now say, “I’m all up in my feels.”
Ok, so maybe it’s not perfect, but I felt like it was a simple way to express myself, and it sort of matches my personality and the way I approach things. It’s easy to understand, and it also takes some of the heaviness off of how I’m feeling.
I feel like it explains how I feel without coming off as too serious or negative. Everyone seems to be able to better relate to this too, which is awesome. I’m not gonna lie, it also sounds a whole lot cooler to say. Haha.
What matters is, it works for me. That’s the most important part, finding what works for you, and what will best help those around you understand you. It doesn’t really matter what you choose, as long as it gets the job done.
It’s so important to be able to explain how you’re feeling, for so many reasons. I need others to know when I’m “in my feels”, because I’m a little more sensitive to things when I’m feeling emotionally overwhelmed. If I’m not able to have the time I need to get myself together, it makes me feel like I’m going to lose my shit. I don’t want that, nobody wants that.
I tend to be a sounding board for others, and most of the time I can handle it, but when I start feeling overwhelmed, I just can’t take on anything else. This is one of the main reasons why it’s so important to be able to let others know what you’re feeling.
We all need breaks, especially when we’re the one those around us lean on the most. If you’re unable to express yourself in the right way, no one is going to know that you just need a little space to breathe. When you’re able to say, “I’m all up in my feels”, or whatever it is that works for you, it lets others know you’re ok, it’s not personal, you just need time to take care of yourself.
What do you use to let others know you’re not feeling good emotionally? I would love to hear what works for you. I’m always looking for new ideas, and better ways to do things.