Negative People Suck
Why do negative people suck? I’m glad you asked. Because I’m going to tell you why. And I’m going to do it in my classic Jess style – honestly, and in my own words.
First, there’s the obvious. I mean, duh. Negativity in general sucks, so of course negative people suck. That part is pretty self explanatory. I’d like to take it a little further though, because I’d like these people to understand and realize what their negative attitudes create. I’d like for them to know how big of an impact they can make on someone else’s life.
I’d also like to clarify something. When referring to negative people, I’m referring to those who purposefully infiltrate the lives of others with their negativity. Those who are just plain mean. Individuals who enjoy making others miserable, because they are miserable.
Now that we have all that mess out of the way, on to the reasons why negative people suck. (In my honest opinion, mixed with truth.)
1. They’re miserable, and they want others to be miserable.
Negative people feed off of negativity. In order to attain the fuel they need to make themselves feel better, they like to commiserate. They’re miserable, and you know how the saying goes, misery loves company. Believe it or not, people like this actually enjoy being miserable. But they enjoy using their negativity to make others just as miserable as they are even more.
I know, it’s hard to believe that someone could actually enjoy being negative, much less enjoy spreading it. Unfortunately, they do exist. And it’s a sad existence at that. Why anyone would want to live their life this way is beyond me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for people living their lives however they see fit. The problem I have with it is when these people try to force their negative attitudes on me.
No one, no matter how entitled they believe they are, has the right to project their bad energy onto others. Feel free to stew in your miserable world, but leave me out of it, and stay over there. I don’t care where “there” is, as long as it’s far the hell away from me, thanks.
2. Negative people can be just plain mean.
I think we can all agree that mean people suck. A lot of times negative people can be flat out mean and hurtful. What gets me is not only is this also purposeful, it’s usually for no good reason at all! It’s like these people wake up and start looking for people to take their own misery out on.
For some reason, they blame the world and everyone in it for anything and everything that is wrong with their own lives. I believe this is what causes them to feel such a sense of entitlement when it comes to hurting others. They believe others deserve it, or that somehow their issues are someone else’s fault.
When they project their negativity and miserable feelings on to others, it somehow makes them feel better. Why? That’s one question I will never understand. Why it would make anyone feel good to be mean and hurtful to other people for no reason is beyond me.
3. They can and will bring you down.
We all have enough to worry about in our own lives, but negative people suck, so they don’t care what you have going on. They don’t care what your struggles are. No consideration for how you may already be feeling ever crosses their minds.
In fact, a lot of the time, negative people enjoy watching others struggle. Just another reason why they suck. They can’t have others walking around, being happy and having good things happen to them. No way, you need to suffer. You know, because they believe in that whole “If I have to suffer, so do you” shit.
Actually, you negative asshat, you don’t have to suffer either. You choose to, because for some twisted reason you enjoy it.
4. They have one mission in life.
Negative people have one mission – to find people who are happy and doing well, and sabotage them. They troll social media, the internet and their social groups, looking for their targets. Once they find just the right person they’ve decided has in some way posed a threat to their smug negativity, they strike.
It’s like they have this odd sense of self-righteousness about them. I’m not even quite sure how to explain it. Usually social media platforms are perfect for negative people, as they often tend to prefer anonymity. The ability to remain anonymous often empowers them.
Passive aggressive behavior is pretty common. It’s like they don’t necessarily always want you to know who they are. Some of them don’t care either way. But they definitely want to make sure you feel their wrath in some way, shape or form. This is their main objective.
5. Getting a rise out of people is their drug.
Yeah, it seems to be an addiction of some sorts. When they decide to take their shitty mood out on others, they get a rise out of it. When they get a reaction – their giddiness seems to soar. It can be really hard sometimes, but you have to be mindful and recognize what their goal is. Don’t feed their negative egos.
The most important thing to remember when dealing with someone like this, is not to take it personally. It’s not really you, there’s nothing you’ve done wrong. They are the ones who have the problem. There is no rhyme or reason to their insanity.
If you find yourself in a situation where you have been sought out by a miserable negative soul, just stay away. Avoid any interaction, and just let whatever it is they say or do roll off of you. When they realize they’re not going to get the reaction they’re seeking, they’ll move on.
If at all possible, try to avoid negative people like the plague. When it’s unavoidable, the main thing to remember is don’t get caught up in their game. Do not give them the satisfaction of letting them know they’ve gotten under your skin.
I know this can be easier said than done sometimes, but in the end, if you’re able to do this, you’ll feel better for not stooping to their level. You’ll also deprive them of the satisfaction they’re looking for in getting that reaction out of you.
And to you, the negative committee, the ones that enjoy spreading misery and making people doubt themselves, please get some help. I hope you’re able to figure out why it is you’re so unhappy, because even though you negative people suck, you deserve to feel contentedness just as much as everyone else.
Whatever the reason that caused you to become the way you are, I’m sorry that happened to you. If you’re able to recognize your behavior, and turn it around, I think you’ll find being a kind, thoughtful and encouraging person is so much more fun.
I didn’t write this post to be mean or negative – I wrote it to protect those who have been victimized by people like this. I am one of those people who have been targeted, especially after starting my blog. You have no idea how your unnecessary and selfish behavior affects others.
I also wrote it in hopes of helping those who are miserable and unhappy. You don’t have to live your life this way. You can choose to be a positive influence in the lives of others. Choose to lift them up, help them, and encourage them. I promise, it feels so much better than spreading ugliness and misery.