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Give Yourself A Break – Why It’s Ok Not To Be Ok Sometimes

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Seriously, it’s ok not to be ok sometimes.

Let me tell you why it’s ok not to be ok. None of us are perfect, we all have good days and bad days. Some of this is just a part of life. I honestly don’t know of anyone who hasn’t had a moment, a day, or even a week that wasn’t rough.

When you struggle with episodes of depression, or deal with the ups and downs of anxiety, you’re most likely going to experience “down” days a little more often than the average person. That’s unfortunately just a part of having a mental illness.

I know that when I have had days when I’ve felt down, overwhelmed, or have had a lot weighing on my mind, I would always feel guilty for not getting things done. If I laid around, or just did not feel up to doing the stuff I should have been doing, I would get so mad at myself.

Unfortunately, a lot of times I have been my own worst critic. I was always extremely hard on myself. It’s so funny, looking back I realize most of the time, the only one frustrated and disappointed in me, was me.

Doesn’t really make sense, does it?


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The epiphany

Once I found the right counselor, she helped me to understand why I did some of the things I did. She helped me to see that being so hard on myself was holding me back from moving forward with getting better. I worked hard on learning how to forgive myself. I also started practicing mindfulness and positive self talk.

Without putting all of this together, I would never have gotten to where I am now. I’m thankful I found an amazing counselor that was able to successfully guide me through this. It wasn’t easy, but the more I changed my thinking, the more I learned.

One important thing I’ve learned is that it’s ok not to be ok sometimes. It’s ok to have a day where you “just can’t”. You might even have a few days where you feel like this. And that’s ok too. The key is not to stay there. You have to be careful not to get stuck. Don’t unpack and live there forever.

“We all have bad days, but one thing is true; no cloud is so dark that the sun can’t shine through.” ~ Miranda Kerr



The lesson

Nobody’s perfect, ok? No matter how much it seems like others have their shit together, the reality is there is no perfect person! If anything, those that seem to have it together the most would probably surprise you.

If anyone tries to tell you that you have to push through and be “on” all the time, tell those people to go take a long walk off a short pier. That’s a lie, there is no one size fits all set of rules we all fit under. We have to do what’s best for ourselves.

Hell yeah it’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok to wallow, have a pity party, and even hide in a blanket fort all day. Sometimes we need to feel these things, and acknowledge them. To me, it’s a healthy thing to do. If you never have days where you feel down, frustrated, or just don’t have the energy to deal with life every now and then – I’d be questioning your sanity.

The key component here to remember though is balance. It’s important – no, it’s imperative – that you do not stay in ‘blanket fort wallow mode’. Have your day (or even two), and allow yourself to feel whatever it is you need to for that moment. Reflect on your feelings, and learn from them. You can actually be your own greatest teacher!

And then once you’ve gotten what you need out of this – pick your ass back up and keep on keeping on! Life is gonna get you down sometimes – that’s just life. But never allow it to keep you down.

Always, always, always get back up. You may be surprised at how much stronger you rise.

~ Jess


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7 thoughts on “Give Yourself A Break – Why It’s Ok Not To Be Ok Sometimes

  1. Thank you for this post! It’s important to remember that you don’t always have to be okay and that’s part of life. Not everything is going to be sunshine and rainbows but as long as you stick with it and remember that it won’t be like that forever you will get past it.

  2. Thank you so much for this! It was actually really helpful. I always beat myself up about things and find it really difficult due to the pressure I put on myself. You have shown me, using one simple blog post, that all is ok, that’s it ok to get things wrong sometimes. Thank you once again xx

    1. I’m so glad it helped! This is such a simple thing that a lot of us tend to forget. Nobody has it all figured out, and nobody gets everything right all the time. If we don’t have bad days, or never fail at anything, we won’t be able to learn and grow! 🙂

  3. Thank you so much for this! It was actually really helpful. I always put pressure on myself, saying that I’m not good enough, or that I can’t manage. When I can. You have shown me that, through one simple blog post, that’s it’s ok to mess up sometimes. We are all human. Thanks again xx

  4. Well said! Accepting that you have your bad days and that’s okay is a major stepping stone. I used to struggle with not being okay because those around me never understood what it was like to have those off days and they would tell me to just get over it. Once I pushed them to the curb, which was a challenge on it’s own, and began to embrace the bad days then they weren’t so much of a burden.

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