What it means to be an Empath.
Being an Empath is not always an easy thing to live with. Especially when a lot of the people around you are extremely emotionally draining. This is because as an Empath, you tend to be overly in tune with the energy of others. Not just in tune, you also tend to actually absorb that energy and carry it with you.
I’m going to try to explain it in my own words, with my own experiences. This is the easiest way I know to help others understand more.
For me, being an Empath has both pros and cons. I want to talk about both, because, well, there are positive and negative aspects. Everything has a little good and a little bad to it. I like to call this the Yin and Yang of life. (One of my many “Jess-isms”.)
Life is, after all, all about balance. Haha.
Before I get into those, I would like to explain a little more of what it feels like. To some degree, I’m sure the experience is a little different from person to person. For me, it’s kind of like being on a roller coaster. And just like with a roller coaster, it can be fun and scary at the same time.
All of the feels
As an Empath, I feel EVERYTHING. The moods of others can affect my own mood. If someone I’m around is nervous, I’ll feel nervous too. I may not even know you’re nervous, but I’ll pick up on the feeling, and it will become my own. This can be a little tricky, because at first I may not even know where the feeling is coming from. I’ll start wondering why in the world I’m feeling nervous. Once I realize these emotions aren’t mine, I can usually let them go.
I don’t have to be around someone to pick up on their emotions. Sometimes I just sense it. I just KNOW. Not only that, I can also sense someone’s emotions when talking to them on the phone, and sometimes even through text. I can’t explain how I’m able to do this, I can only explain what I sense or feel.
I’m also a human lie detector. I can sense immediately when someone is being deceptive. I may not know what the truth is, but I will know that what they are saying is not the truth.
When someone is talking to me, and they’re not being honest, this feeling comes over me, and I go on instant alert. It’s almost like warning bells start to go off in my body! I’ll start to feel uncomfortable and even a little awkward, because I don’t always want that person to know that I know they’re lying. It doesn’t just have to be lies, it can also be a sense that I’m not getting the full story.
Here are a few other things I tend to sense, feel and do as an Empath –
- Cry when reading or watching something sad
- Emotions fluctuate regularly
- Get unexplained feelings or “just know” something is going to happen
- Pretty good judge of character
- Sense when something is not right
- Easily overwhelmed in large groups of people
Pros and Cons of being an Empath
There are lots of positives when it comes to being an Empath. The ability to feel and sense a person’s energy has actually saved me from finding myself in some bad situations. Because of my ability to read people so well, it often helps me identify who I feel comfortable with, and who to avoid.
It also helps me to be in tune with the emotions of others. Because of this, I’m a great listener, and I can sense what it is someone needs depending on the circumstances or situation. If I can help, I will. I’m also very in tune with myself, which obviously has its own benefits.
As with anything, there are also a few cons to being an Empath. It can be hard to be so emotional, it can drain you if you’re not careful. You also have to be careful not to actually take on the emotions of others. You also tend to be sought out by others, which can catch you off guard if you’re not prepared.
Ultimately, being an Empath is something that I honestly feel I was meant to be. I love being able to help others when I can. It’s also great to be able to relate to almost anyone.
Are you an Empath? What’s it like for you? Share your experiences about being an Empath in the comments!